Parenting Psychology

A lot of parents are afraid that they aren’t doing the best they can. So, they compensate for it by buying their children things, thinking it will make up for it. Well, good parents often do one thing right - they learn about how to be a better parent through reflection, and occasionally learning from another good parent.

See, every child is different. You can see it in your home if you have more than one child. They are just different. The circumstances in which you conceived your child would have made a difference already, let alone the emotions and events that were happening at that time.

Good parents think of the interaction between themselves and their children, and constantly ask the question “What must I change in order for my children to change?” Some people think this is unfair. But, the truth is even if your child were ‘at fault’ in the strictest sense of the word, the fact is there is still contributed pain. So, rather than finding fault, which I think families should stop doing, I think it’s about time we began to really engage ourselves with Parenting Improvement. It’s like quality control for our own parenting style. No one can really tell you what you have to do with your own children, except that you need to build a positive relationship for your child. This will foster any necessary change you need to make along the way. At the same time, by accepting responsibility, we ourselves undergo a transformation, a process of growth.

Recently, I watched the show ‘Ice Age’. Far from being just a kid’s cartoon, it espouses many of the things that confuse children nowadays - friendship and betrayal, loyalty and morality, sense of duty versus personal needs, loss and unwanted gain, and growing in all different senses of the word - and I think if we learnt to be that story in our children’s lives, it would help them to learn a lot more about what they need for their own life. Let’s help our children grow, and by the same token, let’s allow us as parents and adults to grow with them.

 

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